Much as we might love the result, getting to the part where your home is newly decorated can be testing.
DIY is meant to be the simple option, where you know what you want and how to get to that point. You can do it at your pace, and you don’t have to deal with others intruding on your home. It’s made all the easier when you’re doing the project with your partner or husband. You’ve got your best friend at your side, and you’re going to create something pretty together! What could go wrong?
Everything. Sorry, naive soul, but someone needed to tell you. Most relationships can be tested by the things that can do wrong with home redecoration and renovation.
So, before you begin, sit down and make some promises. Hand on heart, both of you need to declare the following:
I Will Not… Change My Mind About Decor Halfway Through
Then you murder him* and it’s all very sad indeed.
So promise that you’re not going to get dragged into this. You will settle on a design, and you will stick to it.
(*Don’t murder him.)
I Will Not… Say I Can Do Something I Cannot
This is one that, in most cases, the gents are going to be more likely to be guilty of than the ladies. He will confidently say that of course, he knows where the water pipe is; of course, he’s going to be able to avoid it while drilling. Then of course, if he doesn’t actually know, then you end up calling an emergency plumber while trying to stem the leak with towels.
So don’t do it. If you know how to do something, then great! If not, call someone else in to do it. Otherwise, the resentment is going to stack up to the point where your home becomes unhealthy.
I Will Not… Labour The Point If You Do Something Wrong
It’s DIY. You’re going to make mistakes and the person you’re decorating with is going to make mistakes as well. Even if you handle needing to redo something well, there is a temptation to keep making the point.
Say you’ve settled for the evening after a long day of DIY. “This is nice,” one of you remarks.
“It would have been nice earlier if you hadn’t torn that sheet of wallpaper in half,” the other replies. They say it with a smile – it’s a joke! What larks we have been through! – but there’s ice behind it. Both of you become defensive; the mood darkens.
So if something goes wrong, fix it and forget about it.
And finally, something that you should do.
I Will… Take Time Out If I Need It
If the atmosphere is getting a little difficult, both of you need to promise to walk away – and the other to recognise this as a positive thing. Take a minute, breathe, then get back to it. Follow this and the above promises, and you might just make it out of the renovation alive.