There will come a time when our children decide to move away from the family home. Whether it’s for work, privacy, space or even just coming of age, they will eventually make that decision. You might even want them to move away to start their own life so that you and your partner can have a quiet retirement, or perhaps you want to see them grow up and feel relieved that your children can take care of themselves.
Whatever the reason, here are some tips to get your children off to a running start when they move into their new home away from home.
Be with them when they move
From the initial planning phase to hiring a removal company and finally stepping into their new furnished home, be with them every step of the way. Don’t be overbearing and tell them everything the should and shouldn’t do. Focus on watching your child and offer advice when needed, but don’t exaggerate claims or warn them of dangers that they shouldn’t worry about right now.
There will eventually come a night when you’ve helped your child move into their new home, the sun is down and you wave goodbye to them as you set off to go back home. It’s a bittersweet moment when you realise your child will no longer be living with you and has their own home, so be sure to spend as much time with them as possible before that moment comes.
Help them furnish the house the way they like it
There’s always room for improvement when it comes to their home. A good way to retain some of the familiarity of their old home is to design the family room and rest of the house with a similar layout to what they’re used to. When your child moves into a new home, they’re still going to have old memories of where the cereal is, which seat is the most comfortable and how long it takes for their kettle to boil water. Try to keep things similar so that they have an easier time fitting into their new house.
Visit them regularly at first, but don’t be persistent
You always want to visit your children now and then after they move out. Spend some time with them perhaps consider staying a couple of nights as long as it’s not a bother for them. If they are busy individuals or if they home is too far for a regular visit, then consider eating out with them, speaking about the home and keeping in touch over the phone, with video calling or via Facebook.
Ensure they are taking care of the home and their health
If your child is used to having you cook their meals, clean their room and do their laundry, then try to give the tasks to them before they move. If they express interest in moving out, then help them learn to prepare their own meals, do their laundry and take care of the home. When you visit, have a quick peek in their kitchen cabinets and fridge to ensure they’re not living off junk food and that they’re taking care of the home.